Once again, I realize, I’m at a stepping stone in life. I thought I had things sorted out. I assumed I was emotionally stable. Yet here I am floundering in emotional turmoil.
Another questionable relationship. What are the intentions? What are the expectations? What is the desired outcome? What do you want from this?
The answer, “If I didn’t want to be with you, I wouldn’t be here.”
Ughhhh!!! Not the acceptable answer!! For the love of Christ, how hard is it to tell someone you want them in your life? Like I don’t get it.
I’ve had what I considered to be the love of my life. Everything was perfect, except her mental health. Now three and a half years later I’m still here trying to find someone I can love the way I loved her.
As I’m typing this, I’m realizing our love was not a reciprocal unconditional. That to this day cuts new wounds. She would have rather died at her own accord than be here living with me. Ouch, that stings.
Ok, so apparently I’m not fully recovered from that loss. Who’s to say when one ever is? But I’m TRYING!
I just want that person that says, I pick you. I want you. Is that so hard?
I’ve been through three relationships since the loss of my wife. Each has helped me recover and grow.
The first one helped with the immediate impact. Held me through the constant distraught and tears. The second made me believe it was okay to trust again. I accepted the loss. I realized I no longer had to carry that weight with me. The third, well I thought it was legit and had a chance. I was wrong.
Apparently, I attract toxic people. I never measure up to what they desire. Im over it! I refuse to accept that outcome! I am better than someone’s tic marks. If I don’t fit in your box, politely move along. I’m no longer willing to contort to fit someone’s mold.
I am me. I am a strong, independent female. I will no longer allow myself to be broken or mistreated. Your flaws are NOT my fault or responsibility to fix.
I will keep growing. I will not settle.